And now that you don’t have to be perfect, you can be good. - John Steinbeck
Friday, August 15, 2014
Tuesday, August 12, 2014
If you spend your life waiting for the world to give you answers, you won't find any. You are your own question, and you are the only answer. -Erin Forquer
"this is my letter to the world that never wrote to me." -Emily Dickinson
“Life has no meaning. Each of us has meaning and we bring it to life. It is a waste to be asking the question when you are the answer.” - Joseph Campbell
This is the first MRI I had done before I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis. And while my diagnosis was, at the time, the worst thing that had ever happened to me, 12 years later it turns out that it was also the best thing that happened. To me. Life will always happen to you- and life will always be unfair at some point. But you still have to live. Sometimes, we have to let the bad things change us, to break us, so that we can grow back into the people we are supposed to be.
Wednesday, May 7, 2014
The people who break us... eventually (and I do mean EVENTUALLY) give us the opportunity to grow stronger in our broken places. If you are brave enough, and honest enough, to let another person really change you.. you never walk away in just one piece. But every piece has a new story, a new scar, and a new world you have yet to find. -Erin Forquer
Telling our own story is the most important, and terrifying thing we will ever utter out loud to another person. And if someone is scared, or judgmental, of your story, than they would certainly not have been able to survive what you have, and lack the courage to be in your life. Because if someone cannot even try to understand another, they will surely fail to be understood by anyone, especially themselves. -Erin Forquer
Find what makes you come alive, and do it. And keep doing it no matter the obstacles.. because what the world needs, is a reminder that if you care deeply enough about something, even if it hurts, or it seems impossible, that there are people brave enough in this world to keep trying. Please, don't ever underestimate the magnificent beauty in someone following their dreams. Including you. -Erin Forquer
Don't ask what the world needs.
Ask what makes you come alive,
and go do it.
Because what the world needs
is people who have
Saturday, March 1, 2014
Sometimes we hide from life. Sometimes life hides from us... Either way, I'm pretty sure it's a good idea not to hide from the ones who love us in this crazy and confusing thing called life. -Erin Forquer
Tuesday, December 31, 2013
Please don't ever forget when you wake up each morning, just how dangerous ignorance is. And how damaging and hurtful our silence, or inaction, can be. -Erin Forquer
"The ultimate tragedy is not the oppression and cruelty by the bad people
but the silence over that by the good people."
-Dr. Martin Lurther King, Jr.
Thursday, December 26, 2013
Someone wise once told me to wander often, get lost whenever I can, and never lose the wonder, or hope, of finding what I am looking for. Even if I don't know where my answers are, or if I'll even find them. I still believe I'll find what I am supposed to- even if it isn't what I thought I wanted. -Erin Forquer
Learning to let go of the things that no longer belong to us- or with us, or perhaps never meant for us at all, may be one of the hardest tasks in life. And one of the most painful. But in the end, it may save our life, and give us the only opportunity to live the life that we are supposed to. Never forget this painful truth for yourself- or others, because it might just make us all a lot kinder as we walk this earth. -Erin Forquer
In the end, only three things matter:
How much you loved,
How gently you lived,
and how gracefully you let go
of things not meant for you.
Thursday, November 21, 2013
I was asked to write some advice about raising a child for one of my best friends' baby shower. As I tried to start writing, I realized that the only advice I could give her- was to teach her child what love means in the same way that she and her family have taught me. So this is my wish for your family, and my family, and all of our families. Thank you for showing me what love and family means, in the best definition imaginable. Sincerely, Erin
Monday, October 21, 2013
My sincerest hope, to all of us, is that you are given the opportunity to find this place. It isn't an external place with an actual location. Perhaps rather it's a hidden internal voice, when you're among people who love without conditions, that whispers to you "I dare you to be yourself." -Erin Forquer
Tuesday, October 15, 2013
Perhaps someday I'll crawl back home,
But not as long as I can make stories
out of my heartbreak,
beauty out of my sorrow.
Thursday, October 10, 2013
Our idea about the meaning of life, our "life's mission," our brief time on this earth to make our mark.. whatever you want to call the reason that we are here, on this little planet thats circling a slowly dying star.... Just make sure that what you call it is your own. -Erin Forquer
Tuesday, October 8, 2013
Sunday, October 6, 2013
Friday, September 20, 2013
Whenever I am lonely, or questioning the state of the world.. I think of all the people I have crossed paths with that have changed me. The stranger in the hospital waiting room, who hugged me so fiercely- without any words, when she heard me call home to say that my friend wouldn't be making it through the night. The coach who believed in me when even I didn't. The family I found in New York, who took care of me without expectations. The clients who shared their story with me, with trust and courage I didn't even know existed.. And I'm comforted by the thought that I have something to live up to. I might not always hit the mark, but just the trying gives me hope. -Erin Forquer
The paths we take sometimes lead us away from people we know and love,
but in the end....
What matters is that we affect
the lives of others for the better.
Whoever we are,
Whatever our story.
But if you are able to let
Yourself love honestly and
Then maybe that
Huge heart you have,
WILL SOMEHOW SET YOU
-BBC's 'The Body Farm'
Wednesday, September 11, 2013
There is far more in this world that, when it comes down to it, doesn't make any sense. Cruelty. Abuse. Inequality. Too many things to name here and now. Perhaps the only way we can make any sense of it is to change whatever it is we can change. Make your own world, even if the world hasn't earned entrance to it yet. It's the only way to make it a better place after you're gone. -Erin Forquer
Thursday, September 5, 2013
Ironic isn't a strong enough word to illuminate the difference between the expected and actual outcome of my life. It's ironic that I've spent my entire life striving for my next accomplishment- a degree- the two letters after my name, then the third.. How silly I was to think that any of that mattered. It's ironic that the truth is- all that really matters is finding something to do with your life that matters to someone else. It took talking someone off a ledge to realize this, but, ironically, in the end I was the one who was saved -Erin Forquer
You might hate parts of your past.. you might think they make you weaker than others. But by the sheer act of surviving them, enduring through the painful, or even shameful parts.. that is what makes you infinitely stronger than those who have been privileged with an "easier" life. It's a blessing and a curse. But it is also, undoubtedly, all the evidence you will ever need of your own strength. -Erin Forquer
Wednesday, July 31, 2013
People have far more in common than they would ever guess. But we spend too much time judging other peoples' differences. We're all weird, and insecure, and lost, way deep down... But why does it seem like everyone is so damn afraid to go there? I'd like to think it's better than what true loneliness feels like. -Erin Forquer
Everybody is identical in their secret unspoken belief that way deep down they are different from everyone else. -David Foster Wallace
Sunday, July 7, 2013
It's infinitely harder to judge someone once you've heard their story. I've spent most of my life striving to be great, or perfect, at something, instead of just trying to be good... to me, to you, to the world. -Erin Forquer
Opinion is really the lowest form of human knowledge. It requires no accountability, no understanding. The highest form of knowledge is empathy, for it requires us to suspend our egos and live in another's world. It requires profound purpose larger than the self kind of understanding. - Bill Bullard
It becomes infinitely harder to judge someone, once you've heard their story. Their unfiltered, unedited, terrifyingly real story of everything they've seen, felt, experienced and endured. The story that everyone has, that explains why they are who they are. Be grateful every time someone is brave enough to tell you their story. -Erin Forquer
Tuesday, July 2, 2013
Tuesday, June 25, 2013
Friday, June 21, 2013
Tuesday, June 18, 2013
It's not always true that absence makes the heart grow fonder. Sometimes, it just makes it grow wearier. -Erin Forquer
Monday, June 17, 2013
If I could make you believe one thing- it would be this; the most important things you'll ever do are the hardest, and the most painful. But that is exactly why you have to do them. We grow in love, but we grow in pain, too. -Erin Forquer
Saturday, June 15, 2013
Love never turns out the way you think it will. And loss, or heartache, leaves two people in a place they could have never anticipated... Strangers in a strange, but familiar land.. trying to make sense of the surrounding fading memories that no longer add up.. And trying to understand that- well, that is the anguish of love lost. -Erin Forquer
Maybe you broke my heart. Maybe my blindness let me break my own. Maybe I broke yours.. Regardless, I'm tired of everything being broken, including me. -Erin Forquer
Thursday, May 23, 2013
Wednesday, May 22, 2013
Hope may be a fickle thing at times.. it can prolong our suffering and fool us into many things. And even though the truth may be that love isn't fair, or even kind sometimes, and perhaps fairness doesn't really exist, we all still need hope. We need to believe, to hold desperately onto the possibility that things can be better, because sometimes... they actually turn out that way. And that is worth the risk. -Erin Forquer
Monday, May 20, 2013
Find the places, and people, who celebrate you exactly as you are. And if you can't find them around you, then let me apologize for the world... we all too often don't recognize beauty when we desperately need it. -Erin Forquer
I only know my story, not yours. It's okay if you stay. But I will go where all of me is celebrated, wherever I am met in fields and celebrated. - Emily Maynard